Today I was talking to a new staff nurse at work about me and my boyfriend moving house. She went on to say how she is 25 and still lives with her mum, but has a boyfriend who stays around sometimes. She went on to tell me ‘don’t rush into living with someone, you’re going to get into so much debt, think about what you’re doing"…. She went on to annoy me even more to say “don’t get pregnant that’ll be your life over!” Excuse me but since when is having a child the end of your life? I don’t go out every weekend, I go out maybe once every 2 months. That isn’t the lifestyle I like. Having a baby is the beginning of something amazing. She said that if I had a child in the next few years it would be a big mistake because I am so young…Excuse me! but both my mum and Daneels mum were both married with children at 21. Since when is there a right time to have children? There isn’t one. “Think about how much it would cost” ummm yeah but seeing as I have a very good job that I work full time in, Daneel will be working, we have a stable home, amazing parents who deal with child care if it ever came to that, and who are amazingly supportive, who are you to say I am making the wrong decision in thinking about having children in the next few years. The only thing my child will need is a stable family and a loving mother and father who love their child very much. It doesn’t matter what age you are, the right time to have a baby is when it feels right for you, you are prepared for how much work it would take but you are sure that you can provide the best for your child. Me and daneel have been living together for a while now and we know our relationship Is a brilliant stable one. We obviously wouldn’t be living together if we weren’t sure what we wanted or positive that our relationship is going to work. We have never had an argument, we wouldn’t want to start living that way and eventually bring a child into that environment. It really fucking bugs me when people tell you how you should live your life. I am going to live my life at my own pace, if we both decide to have a baby in the next few years of our lives and we can support and bring it into a loving home, we will. If I want to live with my boyfriend when we aren’t married, I will. I hate it when people turn their noses up at young mums and old mums. There is no 'right’ age to have a baby. It’s the right situation.